People always ask me how i keep my shite together and cope with all the HD. Not only do i live the HD life, blog about it but i also work for a HD charity. *FYI - My work and blog are in no way connected!* Please don't be fooled by my perfect happy pictures on Instagram or Facebook, sometimes it is far from it. I lose my shite and cry just the same as everyone else. I often get asked, ''What do you do to look after your mental health or to stay positive''?
So here it is, my words of wisdom. Have some HD free time - I have two groups of friends, those affected by HD in some way and those who are not, i love all of them equally and would be lost without them!!
My HD friends understand what im going through and i can talk to them about my HD life. Most of these people i have met over the years, at events or on social media, and i love them all. They know my story and what i have gone through, they can relate to my story and understand sometimes it's just hard and i need to complain.
My friends who are not living the HD life, i can still talk to these people, sometimes its good to get an outside view on HD matters, but mostly i like to have conversations away from HD. My non - HD friends and i spend time shopping, going for dinner or even away for the weekend. I love this time because if i don't want to talk about HD i don't have to. They are always there for me HD related or not. Most of my non-HD friends have known me for a very long time, it's because of them i got gotten through the HD years and they have been lucky enough to go through my wonderful love life with me. On hand with ice cream, chocolate and tissues. Or a bottle of Gin! These beautiful humans i get to call my friends are always there for me when i need them, but mostly i love them because they don't see me as the HD girl! And never have, they treat me normal and give me a mixture of love and affection and tough love. They know me so well and know what i need and when i need it. This would be my first recommendation, if you can, make a plan to have some HD free time. This might be grabbing a coffee with friends, heading shopping for the day or even a night away in a hotel or air b&b. Check out my Lisdoonvarna blog post to see how we can have some fun away from HD. HD Free Space - My bedroom is a HD free space, i do not talk about HD in here, whether it is a work-related topic, blog related or Daddy. If something needs to be discussed it is done in the living room or kitchen, outside, anywhere other than my room. This way by bedroom feels like a safe place, away from the big bad scary world. I watch Netflix, read books, paint my nails or flick through Instagram.
If you can, i recommend trying these two tips out, spending some time with friends away from your HD world, or make a HD free space.